Wednesday, April 7, 2010

School, Freelance Writing, & Twitter Troubles

Things have been so busy lately.  I'm not feeling well today, so bear with me as I try to work my way through this.  I've been considering taking the night off, but all that will get me is behind.  I have a paper due next week over this book and attending the lecture will be helpful, so I really need to go.  Not to mention my fear that not going will negatively impact my grade, never mind the fact that my classmates have carte blanche to miss when they please.  I know it should just worry about myself and not what they're doing, but there seems to be a serious break-down in a system where some students are expected to attend 100%, while others aren't even there 50% of the time.  The sad part is, those who missed most of the classes will still pass.  Do I sound bitter about this?

Nevermind that, I'll probably go so there's nothing more to say.  In other, non-school related business, I've been writing my fingers off.  I've written several articles for Demand Studios each day for the last few days, most of which have gone through without a hitch.  I've also been working, slowly, on my Suite101 articles because the only way to make money over there is to write heavily keyword optimized articles that get hits.  I've been having a good time with it, too.  So many people are down on Demand, but ever time an editor tells me "good work" or an article goes through without the need for edits, I'm proud of my efforts.  Those who don't, and never have, written for Demand seem to have made a hobby out of bashing them, but they're good steady employment and articles written for them are thoroughly edited and fact-checked to ensure that they're quality work.  I feel good about what I'm doing over there, which is yielding me a little less than $15 an hour right now, that's one article ever hour and fifteen minutes or so, because I'm making sure to thoroughly check what I'm doing.  I'm hoping to pick up the pace soon, so I can make more like $20-30 an hour.  All this, making money by writing, is making me feel better about our chances to live this summer by our own efforts.

Let's see, in an effort to present myself more professionally, I've registered a new domain.  If you'd like to see it, you can find it at  If you're not interested and don't want to click the link, it won't hurt my feelings, but I thought I'd share for those who are.  It's basically a profile site where I've put my profile, resume, and the like.  It'll be my hub site, from now on, when I look for freelance work outside the confines of Helium, Demand, and Suite101.  I decided on .info because, well, it's an information site about me so it's appropriate and would you believe it was only $3.99 for the whole year for that domain?  Very pleased with the bargain on a site I was going to buy anyway.

One final thing before I go, I need to rant a bit and get some advice.  I have a friend on Twitter who I've found rather insulting of late.  He's generally a nice guy, he's childfree, and has a lot of my same values, which makes talking to him via Twitter interesting.  He's friends with several of my childfree twitter friends, so keeping up a dialog is generally amusing.  Unfortunately, it would seem that he's a dedicated fat hater.  He's always bashing fat people, saying Twitter is only good for bashing "breeders and fatties."  I find that offensive, considering that I'm a plus-size gal.  I checked out his website and he actually has a whole page devoted to how much he hates fat people.  Who does that?  And it's vicious, too.  He really, really hates fat people.  The guy is single and he rips into fat girls about how unattractive and disgusting he finds them, and I can't help thinking that his judgmental attitude and dedication to judging people for their appearance, rather than what's on the inside, is the reason he's in his 30's and can't hardly get a date.  It's sad because, well, I generally like him.  He's always friendly with me, but I wonder if he would be if he knew that I'm heavy?  The hypocrisy of the whole thing is amazing, considering he can't see me, or some of our other twitter pals, and he seems to like all of us just fine.  So I guess my question is, do I unfollow/block him?  Or, do I just accept his vicious hatred of fat people and ignore it as one of his quirks.  I mean, friends have quirks, right?  And, it's not like I'll ever know him in person.  It just bothers me to see him being such a jackass about fat people.

On that note, I'm off to try to make myself presentable for class and maybe put some food in my tummy.  My diet isn't coming along remarkably well, I'm afraid, but I'm trying to stay encouraged, which is also not coming along remarkably well.  Anyway, time to go.  Adieu.


  1. Maybe you could ask him about it. Without telling him why you are asking, try and find out wtf is his problem. If he is a jerk about it, unfollow/block him. If he talks about it like it's just funny, then maybe you could suggest to him that some people might be really hurt by his humor.

  2. That's great that you are doing so much writing. I never looked into freelance work but it sounds fun. I just figure I'm so… me… that I wouldn't like any of the topics they'd give me for freelance work. *sheepish grin*

    I don't know how you can stand that Twitter friend. I'd dump him/unfollow, especially if he keeps harping on the theme. Guys like that who think women always have to be prefect have some serious issues. They are also, generally, the guys who bitch that women are all "gold diggers" but they're so stupid they don't see that the two issues go hand in hand. Looking gorgeous and being perfect all the time is expensive, so a gal who meets his needs will be expensive, and a gal who is inexpensive will, generally, not be perfect and gorgeous. DUH. Regardless, he'll never be satisfied with a woman because all women age or gain weight or get injured at some point and won't always be a perfect 10. *eyeroll*

  3. This was sort of interesting to me, because upon the statement that "Twitter is only good for bashing breeders and fatties," you stated that "I find that offensive, considering that I'm a plus-size gal." Well I find this statement offensive, considering I have kids. Okay, truth be told, I don't care about what some dude says on Twitter. I just find it ironic that some childfree-ers are willing to throw around the derogotory term "breeder," but those same people get offended when someone refers to them using a derogatory term such as "fatty." What's the difference? Both terms are insulting, and I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone who is narrow-minded enough to continuously throw that kind of terminology around without thinking twice about it. Both words place people into a stereotypical box that doesn't consider "what's on the inside" (as you put it).

    Regarding your comment, "...he actually has a whole page devoted to how much he hates fat people. Who does that?" My response is, "I dunno...maybe the same kind of person who would have a whole site devoted to hating people with kids?" Mean is mean, regardless of the target.

    Sorry, you know I love you Kristyn; I just had to express my opinion on this matter.

    Back to your original question as to whether you should maintain your friendship with this guy, my initial response would be "can him." Anyone that would devote so much time and energy to bashing overweight people has to be extremely shallow, and frankly, a prick. But obviously, do whatever you feel is right. Good luck. :-)
    .-= Jodi´s last blog ..Easter, Earthquakes, & Eye Patches =-.

  4. Jodi, I don't say it's only good for bashing "breeders and fatties," I was quoting him. I don't know when the last time I used the word breeder was, honestly, because after all that happened last year I took some time to re-evaluated my language. I do still have problems with some folks with kids, I always will, but I don't think I've use the term breeder in a long time. I also don't feel like it's my place to get upset about him saying breeders, because I don't have kids. It would be like you taking the "fatties" comment personally, when it's not something you can identify with on a personal level. Although, in reference to your saying that CF-ers don't have the right to be offended when we're bashed, I would say that being heavy is often not a choice. I'm heavy because I have medical problems that make it difficult for me to lose weight -- yes, I know that sounds like a cop out, I hate saying it, but that doesn't make it any less the truth. It's not a lifestyle choice. The same can't be said about a lot of people, but that's the fact for me. Having children is almost always a lifestyle choice. Yes, accidents happen and there are always exceptions, but generally children are a choice.

    I don't know that I'll block him, but I might take Amanda's advice and mention it to him and see what he says. He is friends with some of my CF friends, so I'm leery to just ban him. Thanks for weighing-in, Jodi (no pun intended, I assure you).

  5. I think I might just take your advice, Amanda. I think that I'll mention it to him and find out what the deal with the hate is next time I see him say something nasty. Thanks!

  6. Thanks, Phoena! I'm trying to make the most of the freelance writing, hopefully I'll be able to turn it into full-time income, who knows?!

    About the twitter guy... you know him. I won't say who, but I'm sure you can figure out who I mean. Look at his website! I don't know if it links from his Twitter anymore. Either way, he's got a serious grudge against fat people. :( I just don't know about bumping him because he's generally a nice person. Thinking it over. Thanks for the advice!

  7. Kristyn,
    This guy is a jerk. Why waste your time even talking to him about it? Based on his website, you already know where he stands. What reply could he possibly come up with that will make this okay?
    And by the way, ANY website that devotes itself to hating a single group of people is wrong.
    Regarding Jodi's comment, you stated " I do still have problems with some folks with kids, I always will..." Hell Kristyn, I have problems with some folks with kids! (My most recent mommypoopchute blog will confirm this).I don't see ANYTHING wrong with that at all. Some moms are really frickin' annoying.
    I don't believe Jodi's comment was an attack on you. I believe it was an attack on the childfree sites and on the stupid twitter guy. I read your blogs, and you don't single out groups of people and bag on them. (At least not anymore). She wanted you to understand that the way you felt after seeing this guy's "fat" website was the same exact way we felt after seeing a particular childfree site. Whether or not you chose your weight or she chose to be a parent is a irrelevant technicality. The feeling is still the same. It hurts. It always hurts to be judged for anything other than what is on the inside.
    Oh, I don't want to rehash the bitter arguments from last year. Since it is hard to read a "tone," please know that I am not upset at all right now.
    Oh, you mentioned that your weight was not by choice. So do I get any points because all of my kids were "accidents"? Ha ha, kidding!
    .-= Shannon´s last blog ..The Busy Epidemic =-.

  8. I skim so much of Twitter these days that unless it was @me I probably missed it, so I think I know who you mean, I just haven't seen that stuff. I'm going to go check

  9. Kristyn!! I am so proud of you for all the writing you are getting done...keep up the good work!!
    As for the "fatties" comments regarding your "friend" on twitter... I say he is no friend to anyone!! Why would you want to even talk to him? If your other CF friends don't talk to you just because you don't talk to him, they are not your friends just consider the source and right off anyone who turns their back on you for any reason. I suppose that everyone, or most ppl have their prejudices, but that one is just ignorant!! Hmm I am wondering does this guy have any pics of himself up? Had you considered that maybe he himself is fat? ha that would be funny actually, but probably not the case.
    Now, as for the term "breeder" I really hate that, but I think that you know that. I think it's an extremely rude thing to call anyone, especially since without mothers the ppl using this word would not exist either. I am a grandma and I really am offended by that word and the ppl who speak out against's every persons right to have or not have why is it even an issue at all? I know that some mothers are extremely annoying, like the ones who think their little darlings can do no wrong or the ones who have kids to get more welfare and so forth...after 12 years of being a child care provider I can identify w/ any one who thinks that some mothers are a pain, but to generalize and call all mothers bad is just wrong.
    Think about what Jodi and Shannon said honey, I don't think they mean to be offensive, I think that they are just trying to point out that you felt the same way they had when they read some of the CF stuff before... They are not saying that it's ok for that guy to say bad things about fat ppl. Anywho...I love you!! Mom

  10. PS I just looked at your link above...I am so proud of the professionalism on these pages and I know that the information on this will take you far...So proud that you are my daughter!!

  11. Kristyn,

    FYI, If I were to use the term "breeder" I wouldn't be talking just about "mommies and daddies" - I could be talking about anybody that is straight, Child Free or not.

  12. I've been thinking, since yesterday, about what I could say to all this "breeder" talk that wouldn't make things worse, or stir up old feelings of hostility, when I realized, of a sudden, that I have no desire to say anything at all. So, I'm just going to leave it alone.

    I probably will remove him from my Facebook, thank you to everyone who gave me input on that front.

    Also, thanks for the compliments on my new professional page. I appreciate it.

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  14. I have to apologize Kristyn. I just returned to this discussion for the first time since I posted my last comment, and I'm realizing that my remarks didn't translate the way I had intended. It was never my intention to accuse you of anything. It was like Shannon and your mom stated above: I was simply trying to point out the parellism between our situations, the fact that Mr. Fat-Phobic's comments make you feel the same way that the CF's comments make moms we're unfairly being judged. I have no desire to rehash any of this either; I guess I was being sort of selfish. I saw an opportunity for the first time ever to illustrate to you why that site is prejudice in what it promotes (in the same way a fat-bashing site is prejudice in what it promotes), so I jumped on it.

    I know this topic exhausts you, so you don't have to reply. I just wanted to straighten that up.

    @ Cheryl, thank you for your thoughtful comments.
    .-= Jodi´s last blog ..Easter, Earthquakes, & Eye Patches =-.