Saturday, January 14, 2012

Wal-Mart, Valentine's Day, & A Happy Marriage

Matt and I were in Wal-Mart the other day, picking up food for our furbabies, when I noticed that they're already stocking Valentine's Day treats. For us, Christmas is barely a memory--in fact, our Christmas tree is still up--and the big box stores are already stocking up for the next big money holiday. It's almost whiplash inducing the way they skate from one holiday right into another without so much as taking a moment to breathe. It's insane!

Still, I love Valentine's Day so I can't help feeling a little giddy at seeing all the treats on the shelves, even if it is still January. Since I've sworn off sugar, Valentine's Day is a little less fun for me, but the fact that we celebrate our anniversary on Valentine's Day compensates. The holiday will always have a special place in my heart for this very reason, that it's our anniversary, even though I've gotten a whole host of varied responses to that little bit of knowledge; everything from "That's so corny" to "Aww, how romantic." The most annoying responses are the vitriolic insults from people who feel perpetually disappointed by the holiday, who shout that it's a consumerist holiday and proudly proclaim that they hate Valentine's Day.  Okay, so ignore it and don't take away my happy anniversary because you're miserable. Good.

This year, when the happy day comes, exactly a month from today, in fact, Matt and I will celebrate 12 year of happy marriage. It's always easy to remember how long we've been married because it's in the year (we got married in 2000). In May, we've been together for 13 years. That absolutely blows my mind. I cannot believe we've been married and happy for so long. Ups and downs aside, we've got a fantastic marriage that I'm pretty sure no one expected to last--him an avid believer that marriage was a mistake, me recently divorced. When we got together, we said we'd never get married, it was just something we wouldn't do. We'd live in sin forever (heh!), forsaking all others because we wanted to and not because the law forced us. After just six months together, much in love, we knew that wasn't a possibility. So, we went to the court house, got married, and have been that way ever since.

It's funny actually, because though we both knew we wanted to get married, neither of us mentioned it to the other. We just let it ride, not wanting to screw up a good thing. Then, one day, we got into a discussion about marriage and the truth came out. We couldn't quite decide if we'd get married on leap day or Valentine's Day, but we knew it would be one of them. After much discussion, we settled on Valentine's Day and I don't know about him, but I'm happy with that decision. Every year I look forward to Valentine's Day with much enthusiasm, knowing it's our special day, and he likes to joke that it's the day the whole world celebrates our love.

So, the next time you're in Wal-Mart, lamenting the already marketed Valentine's Day holiday, think about us. I always do, it's what makes everything okay for me. Come hell or high water, Matt and I have one another, while the rest of the world has chocolate hearts and red roses. That's more than good enough for me!

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