Wednesday, March 6, 2019

Right Place, Right Time

I was listening to a romance novel last night while Matt played a video game. The female character was gushing to her friends about how lucky she had been, how if she hadn't been in the right place at the right time, she would never have met her man. She went on to talk about how he had brought so much into her life. And you know, rather than cocking a skeptical eyebrow as I sometimes do, I could kind of relate to this chick. 

Three or so weeks ago, Matt and I celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary. We've been together almost 20 years and, not gonna lie, that feels pretty amazing. He's brought so much into my life, exposed me to things I would never have been otherwise, and made me a better person. He's always believed in me, even when I've given him no reason. In short, he's pretty damn amazing. 

The thing is, had I not been at the right place at the right time, I would never have met him. Having met randomly on ICQ (it's a chat program, sort of like AIM or yahoo messenger), had I not been sort of randomly searching for someone to talk to, we would never have met. In a world of creeps, and there were a hell of a lot of creeps on ICQ back then, I found a good guy. The odds were not in my favor. Especially so because I was not looking for a man. I was just looking for company. 

Do y'all know how many times I've had to explain that we met randomly, on the internet, way before there were any sort of dating websites. Back then, people had to meet sort of the same way you meet someone at a bar, or the laundromat. It has to happen sort of by accident. You might meet someone in a chat room where you share a mutual interest, but that same thing could happen if you meet a nice guy in the horror novel section of a bookstore. It's by chance. 

I took a chance, it paid off, and I spent the next 10 years telling people not to do what I did. It wasn't safe. Flying to Texas in the middle of the night to meet a man I hadn't even seen a picture of was probably the dumbest, most reckless thing I have ever done. Hubs could have turned out to be a psychopath. After almost 20 years together, I'm pretty sure he's not. Still, it was pretty insane and a good bit dangerous.

All that being said, I will never regret having made that choice. 20 years later, we're still happily together. Sometimes, taking chances pays off.

We're a little crazy ♥