Thursday, January 23, 2020

Judgy Vegans

It turns out being vegan is a whole new world of judgy. I mean, it has it's obvious benefits. I've lost 13 lbs in less than a month (part exercise, but mostly just what I'm eating), I feel better emotionally, my skin looks better. I could probably go on, but you get the point. It's also not as hard as I thought it would be, even though it involves a lot more cooking than I was previously doing. Both good things.

But, like, the judgmental things you hear from people when you tell them you're vegan are kind of ridiculous. The people you think will support you, don't, which has been the hardest part for me. Like, this is a good choice I'm making for my health, you don't so much have to understand it. But, really, even strangers and acquaintances give you the side eye.

I think what I've found most surprising and upsetting, though, is the judgy vegan social media crowd. These are the people you expect to support you because they're in the same boat. The ones who you think you should be able to cheer for you, even if they don't know you. It has turned out to be a bit more judgmental than I expected. A mixed bag of cheerful new vegans, helpful veteran vegans, and the curmudgeonly vegans who feel like too many people are encroaching on their lifestyle. 

I'm not talking about  most vegan bloggers, without whom I would not have been able to do this. I love them. No, I'm talking about those people who crop up with "don't eat that, it's processed!" every single time anyone admits to eating anything but plants that grew in the dirt from their own back yards. I joined a vegan Facebook page (thanks, Jodi!) and most of those folks are awesome. I've gotten some great meal ideas from that group. But, there always seems to be the one or two judgy people who wants to tell you what you're eating isn't vegan enough by telling you that the food is processed. I mean... shut the fuck up. 

Isn't it good enough that people are trying to do better, not eat cute little animals, and improve their health? Not everyone has hours to make elaborate, complicated meals 3x per day. Some of us rely on processed foods sometimes, much of which is actually pretty healthy. The frozen meat alternatives, like chick'n tenders, also taste great... well, okay, not the "smart dog" vegan hot dogs, they can go back to whatever hell they crawled out of and stay there!!! But most of the other vegan processed meat alternatives I've tried taste really good.

It's only been one month, and maybe I'm sensitive about it because I also joined the Peloton group on Facebook and some of those people can be downright mean. I think it's something to get used to, for sure. For now, I'm plodding right along making all sorts of delicious foods I don't think I would have even considered eating before. I'm feeling better and sleeping better, despite the judgment and feeling good about the supportive folks who are here for one another. 

Chickpea Salad Sandwich

3 comments:

  1. The funny thing about all this is even though I sent you an invite to that vegan group, I stopped following posts from that site about a year ago for the exact same reasons you've outlined above. As a new vegan a couple years ago, I found a lot of the posts and articles helpful, and it was refreshing to see that other vegan newbies were struggling with similar issues as me. But after awhile I got so tired of the holier-than-thou vegans. For example: One girl posted the question "Has anyone tried the Beyond Meat burgers yet? Was wondering if they actually taste good?" Instead of getting an answer to her question, she got ostracized by a bunch of people asking her why the hell would she want to eat that garbage, yada yada. No one even answered her question. It pissed me off because some of us are in it for moral reasons (like me), not health. If I want to indulge in crappy fast food once in awhile WITHOUT harming an animal and negatively impacting the environment, you should be praising me, not judging me.
    Hmmm. I might post this on the site. Lol
    The Peloton group is mean?! I can't even imagine any context for that!

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    1. No, don't share it there, you're gonna get me in trouble! LOL

      Yes, for the most part the Peloton group is fine, but some of those people can be down right brutal. lol

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    2. 'I might post this on the site' meant 'I might share my commentary/opinion from above'...not your post! Lol.

      I came on your blog to grab a quick comment I wrote regarding VR for a colleague who's interested, so just ignore me. I'll catch up with all your posts in a couple days when I have a few seconds to breathe. Hope all is going well!

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